Take responsibility for it — and yourself
In short, it’s nothing more complicated than:
Have something you’re dog-ass excited about building.
And I’m not even sure “dog-ass” is a phrase.
And when I say “something,” I do not mean being “excited” about whatever you’re doing after work, or wearing that new shirt, or grabbing the fancy coffee on the way to the office.
When I say “have something you’re excited about,” I explicitly mean “building.”
Being excited about Monday means being exited about chipping a little bit more away on whatever it is you’re doing. And coming at it fresh off the weekend. And maybe even getting a head-start on everyone else, because most people are dragging ass.
Hating Monday and “TGIF” is a sad way to live
Because it’s barely living at all.
Watching TV or film, going to brunch, going out for dinner, day drinking, night drinking, date nights, playing, having fun…
This isn’t enjoying life — it’s escaping from it.
And we can certainly go through life doing this and little more, but only if we’re okay with this feeling. And while many of us are, some of us aren’t.
Just because everyone’s doing it doesn’t make it right
This is “bandwagon bias” and it’s unfortunate.
Jessica Semaan wrote,
“We have the consensus society supporting our stagnation, and encouraging us to settle, because everyone is doing it, and if everyone is doing it that means it is right. WRONG.”
When I was in banking, living like this was cultural. At the beginning of the year, all my colleagues would map out the banking holidays — there are roughly one per month — and then look forward to them with the eagerness of kids going on field trip. (Or, getting off school on the same holidays.)
There’s really a bigger work culture message here about structured work weeks — if we’re working more than a structured 40 hours, we should be getting more than a structured 2 days + 2 weeks + bank holidays off.
But even within that model, which many of us still have, we have to aspire to find more meaning that hating Mondays.
How to love Mondays
To be fair, I’ve always loved Mondays.
My least favorite day is Sunday evening. Many people dislike Sunday evening as well, but mostly because they dislike of Monday bleeds into and ruins it. I guess that’s more or less why I didn’t like it either — in high school, Sunday night meant staring down the mountain of homework I still hadn’t done. Sunday night also meant to doing it to the background noise of football — and my mother cheering and screaming at the game.
But while Sunday is stagnant, Monday means movement. If anything, perhaps I like Monday because it’s a fresh-start “escape” into school or work. But I’ll take that kind of escapism, especially since I can still enjoy my weekends, over the dread of Monday morning and living for the weekend.
Grant Spanier tweeted,
“If ‘Monday’ means work and you absolutely dread it, maybe you should reconsider what you’re doing. Or reconsider how you approach things you don’t want to do.”
And then he pointed out that we should be living for Monday.
“Living for Monday means caring about what you do. It means living intentionally. It means living with purpose. It doesn’t mean your “job” is everything, it doesn’t mean you are defined by your occupation. But it means you approach life as an art form.”
You’ll love Monday once you take accountability for your life
Once you adopt this mindset, you’ll know, because it will feel like a switch is flipped.
Hating Mondays will suddenly feel as gross and unacceptable as a hangover or unhealthy eating habits if we’re trying to lose weight or bad relationships when we’ve decided we’re worth more.
And in the sense, the solution isn’t simply to “find more meaning” — it’s to build our self esteem. And take responsibility.
Grant Spanier wrote,
“It’s easy to complain and blame other people. Once you start owning your career you become responsible for it. It’s no longer the boss’ fault. It’s not the corporation’s fault you aren’t happy. Start Living and that means you need to put a stake in the ground — you have to take a hard look in the mirror and accept control of your life. This isn’t about taking control. We don’t need to take anything. We simply have to come to terms with our ability to control our lives.”
Once we do those two things — taking ownership and picking something we’re dog-ass excited about building — Monday mornings can’t not feel great. Every morning feels great. Maybe not literally every day, but overall, living will feel great.