My darling… chill.
A lot of people say they “need” a lot of texting —some of them require “at least once a day,” and ideally a lot more than even that.
And on the surface, no big deal. The problem I have with it is: why.
Continuous reassurance. And insecurity.
One of my friends admitted that need for regular texting is:
“So I know they’re thinking about me.”
And, like… damn, girl. Get it together.
You should already know they’re thinking about you. I mean, alright, more accurately: you should easily and readily assume they’re thinking about you, with enough confidence that you don’t need to worry too much about whether you’re wrong or right.
Be secure about the fact that you’re on their mind. I mean, you’re thinking about them off and on throughout the day more times than you can even count, so… logic would dictate they’re doing the same.
But even if they’re not: nothing bad can come from sweetly assuming they are. Nothing good can come from assuming they’re not.
If they’re not thinking about you, that’s on them and not you
Another friend admitted,
“Part of it is, too, that people ghost so much that if I don’t hear from you for a full day I’m like ‘uh, kinda gettin iced. It’s done. Welp, RIP. Nice knowin you, you know?”
In my opinion, my response to that is: Okay, fine. Then we’re rolling to a slow fade and it’s not meant to be. And like… boy, bye.
It’s better to have no text at all than some obligatory “blood text” wrung from your partner’s reluctant paws.
Text when you want to text. Let your partner do the same.
The secret win here is that each time they do, you can rest assured it was because they actually wanted to.